*Disclaimer: This blog is not in anyway an attempt to condemn, only to present facts about the dangers of and the truth of God's word as it relates to sex outside of marriage.
The bible has a great deal to say concerning sexual morality. First and foremost, understand God created sex as a means of enjoyment between husband and wife. So yes, we are created to enjoy sex but in the right context at the right time. However, many, including Christians, are engaging in premarital sex- fornication. In 1 Corinthians 6:18, the Apostle Paul instructs us to flee from sexual looseness in thought, word or deed. He also tells us that us that when one commits fornication (sex outside of marriage) it is a sin against one's own body. Our body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and we are not our own. In other words, when a sexual act is committed it violates the sacredness of our body which was made by God for God-modeled love; we cannot choose to live in violation of God’s purposes.
The Old Testament has a lot to say about sexual purity as well. Under the Old Covenant, proof of a young girl's virginity was shown by the blood stained garment or sheet from the wedding night. If the bride had not been a virgin upon marrying she would be considered a disgrace and stoned to her death (See Deuteronomy 2:21). To me, this indicates God takes sexual purity seriously and he intended for us to remain virgins until marriage.
Some may think God is trying to restrict us from enjoying our lives and having fun. However, He created the rules for our protection. He knew that there would be devastating consequences for having sex outside of marriage. Here are some startling statistics, 1 in 5 adults in America have herpes-Herpes Simplex Virus (HSV), 1 in 4 Americans will have contracted some sort of sexually transmitted disease (STD) at some point in their life, 1 in 4 American women have the human papillomovirus HPV (some strands may cause cervical cancer and others may produce genital warts) and it is believed that half of American men are unknowingly living with HPV. I have not even begun to discuss the number of new HIV cases every year. These statistics are indicative that premarital sex is a risk that is too great. It's like playing Russian roulette with your life. Some may argue, "I practice safe sex", well guess what? HPV and Herpes can be contacted by skin to skin contact.
Finally, there are the spiritual repercussions such as forming perverse soul ties of having premarital sex. Soul ties are formed when two are more people are joined together. Some soul ties are good, some are unholy. When one has sex outside of marriage a bond is formed with the other person. In most cases, premarital sex leads to devastating emotional consequences.
You may ask; "well how will know I am sexually compatible with my mate?”
Here are my thoughts, it was meant for us to never experience sex before marriage, and therefore if that is the case we have nothing or no one else to compare our mates too.
I am not naïve. I recognize that many have had sex; but, thank God for the Blood and saving Grace of Jesus Christ. He is able to heal and restore. If you are currently having sex, I encourage you to stop, repent and ask God to help you live a life of purity. Also, go get tested for sexually transmitted diseases, including HIV, protect your health and the health of your future mate.
 Sexually Transmitted Diseases Guide. Retrieved 4/3/2011 from http://www.std-gov.org/stds/
 In Scary News: New Study Finds Half of Men May Have HPV. Retrieved 4/3/2011 from http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/health/in-scary-news-new-study-finds-half-of-men-may-have-hpv-2460328