Last weekend we celebrated our 12thanniversary. We've had some great times and some not so great times, but I'm glad we've hung in there together. We decided before we wed that divorce was not an option, I would say, jokingly; "this is 'til death do us part, now if I have to kill you to get out than..."
Divorce not an option? Is she kidding? No, I'm serious. Trust me, I considered it many times, but I finally decided to honor our earlier decision. That just means we have to work harder to communicate, be honest, and walk in integrity with each other. We have to remember we have a covenant not a contract. It is an exchange of his strengths for my weaknesses and vice versa. So we learn about each other, adapt and grow together.
God honors the covenant of marriage and He has shown us repeatedly that He is for us. He has surrounded us with friends, family, Pastors who build us up and encourage us to hold on to the covenant.
I am grateful for the 12 years we have shared and looking forward to more!
The best advice that I can give to a single person wanting to get married, newlyweds, or couples that have been married a while is to settle in your spirit that divorce is not an option; this closes the door to the enemy. If divorce is always your "trump card", your "ace in the hole" if things getrough, if he/she gets on your very LAST nerve, an option to divorce is an open door for the enemy to come in. 1 Peter 5:8 says, " Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour." Don't give any place in your relationship to the devil. Close the divorce door now.
This past weekend, we celebrated our 12th anniversary. As Jody said, we've had some great times and some not so great times, but once the big "D" card is off the table, it's time to roll up our sleeves and get to work. Not bad work, but just work. We have to continually work on our marriage, our communication, etc. It really helps hearing the testimonies of older couples who are still learning new ways to communicate, new ways to get along, and new ways to let things that don't matter go. The first dozen is in the books and now I am expecting greater manifestation of God's goodness through our covenant in the next 12.
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